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A Stall for the Winter
Is Confining Horses During Rough Weather Better or Worse for Them?
I have a dilemma—I am not sure if I should get a stall for my horse for the winter. Right now my horse, Jubilee, a three-year-old sport horse appaloosa/warmblood, and two other horses are currently outside 24/7. There is another older horse that joins them outside from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. then goes back to his stall. If I want Jubilee to have a stall she needs to have his routine. She can’t just go into the barn when it is bad weather. The ideal situation.
I can easily argue that Jubliee is in one of the nicest facilities in Santa Barbara County. She has an irrigated pasture and a beautiful view of the Pacific Ocean. For California standards she is in horse (and people) heaven. Most of the horses here are in small 12 x 24 pipe corrals that I feel are prisons for horses. Horses may be domesticated animals but their bodies are designed to roam with a herd more than 20 miles a day. The solitary confinement that is so “normal” here in Southern California makes me gasp for air and squint my eyes every time I see it. For anyone with an empathic eye, those horses’ pain and depression are clearly evident. The horses at Jubilee facility are not in this much pain.
I am worried about the winter. Jubilee’s pasture does not have a manmade shelter nor does it have any trees or valleys for windbreak cover. The thought of my three-year-old athletic horse being inside a stall more than she will be outside hanging out bothers me. Both options are unnatural situations.
When I discuss my dilemma with my friends I hear two arguments. “They are wild animals she will be fine” is one.
“But in the wild,” I say, “She would be able to go into a grove of trees or down into a valley to get out of the weather. She would not be on the top of a hill overlooking the ocean with no wind break.”
“Don’t worry,” they reply. “Get her a good blanket and she will turn her butt to the wind.”
Then there is the other school of thought. “It is good for her to be inside for so many hours. Her training will come along faster. She will connect more to you than the herd.” For some reason this makes me sad. I feel like she is doing well already. She is not herd bound. She comes when it is time to go get her.
“This barn life is the way horses live. This is a good life for them.” The horses this person is talking about get four hours outside on pasture everyday. But alone. They do not have other horses to keep them company, play with, or snuggle with. These horses have a far better life than most, I agree. But I still think to myself, “No, maybe it is the good life for us. We have these horses that are bonded to us out of default because they do not have a herd of their own. We keep them looking pristine not knowing that we are taking away who they are. We trim the hair from their ears, the hair that tells them which way the wind is blowing. We cut their whiskers to make them look neat and orderly but these whiskers are connected to pathways in their brain. It is actually painful to cut them; they use their whiskers for sensory. Telling them what is desirable and what they should stay away from. The whiskers protect their muzzle and help them to eat.
I want Jubilee to be a horse and live as naturally as possible. I want to ride her and have fun with her but I don’t want to take away any of her enjoyment in order to do so. So what do I do?
I ask Jubilee, “What do you think I should do?”
Jubilee: “When I am in a stall I kind of like it cause I get to see everything that is happening. I get to talk to the other horses about being ridden and sometimes I roll and the bedding is really comfortable. When it is foggy out I don’t really like to get too wet. Some of the horses don’t mind but when I am lying on the hard ground and I am getting wet I miss the run in shed I used to have in Oregon. In Oregon, I was really lucky cause I could go and hang out with my friends and then I had this run in shed I could go in and get water and food. I slept in there, too. I used it a lot when it was windy. When it is windy and I was outside I got dirt in my eyes and I don’t like dirt in my eyes. I like being in a shed.”
Laura: “Jubilee, do you understand that if I get you a stall you will have to be in the stall more than you can be outside? So all night long every night you will be inside and also in the afternoon you will have be in a stall, too. It’s a lot more in the stall.”
Jubilee: “If I don’t like it can I change? Like maybe we could try it. I like moving around a lot cause I get anxious. I like the evenings outside but when it is sleeping time, sometimes I feel too vulnerable cause there is no shelter to feel like you are safe and to feel like a predator wont sneak up on you. When I had my run in shed I felt safe.”
Laura: “Jubilee, what kind of predators are you worried about?”
Jubilee: “I am worried about mountain lions, a pack of coyotes or dogs, or man horse stealers.”
Laura: “Jubilee, we may have those things in our area but I feel very confident that would not happen to you.”
Jubilee: “I have seen a mountain lion here. He was looking at us and he walked all the way to the donkey and she made so much noise he thought maybe he should keep walking. But I saw him.”
Laura: “Wow, I didn’t know that….Jubilee, the last time we spoke you were firm about staying outside every night unless it was bad weather. It sounds like you have changed your mind. What happened? Did you talk to the other horses about this?”
Jubilee: “Yeah, I did talk to the other horses and they said that we need shelter out here and if I had a chance to go inside I should.”
Laura: “But the gelding you are out with I know hates going inside. Did he say this to you?”
Jubilee: “Yeah, he said he had a bad experience inside getting hung up and he said that is why he doesn’t like it because every time he is inside he gets anxiety. I said I had that experience but I fixed myself. I don’t get anxiety. And the other horses say sometimes they are chilly and they would rather not wear a blanket and be inside than wear a blanket.”
Laura: “But Jubilee, the mare you are out with doesn’t wear a blanket and doesn’t go inside.”
Jubilee: “Mom, I am talking to all the horses not just the horses in my pasture. Mom, lets try it. If I hate it, say you wont do it anymore. Mom, I will still have my herd during the day. I want to learn how to be a stable horse so when we go to shows and I don’t have pasture I can know it well. Like sometimes I wonder if I am gong to be a famous horse.”
Laura: “Why do you think you will be a famous horse?”
Jubilee: “Because you tell me how special I am and that makes me feel like I am someone who is going to do something great. I love to work and I love to get better at what I am doing. So I bet a lot of people will like to watch me.”
Laura: “Well, Jubilee, I do hope that we are advocates for horses and we help make other horses lives better.”
Jubilee: “I am learning about what is fair and unfair to horses. I’ll talk to a lot of horses and then tell you about it so that you can help them, okay?”
Laura: “That sounds great, Jubilee.”
Well it seems now I know what I am going to do. Come November, Jubilee will have a stall. We will keep you all posted.
Talking to Animals
Asking What My Pets Love About Life
I ask my animals, “What do you love most about life?”
Here are their answers.
Luca my three-year-old cream-colored poodle says, “Friends. I love friends. I don’t care if they are dog, cat, bird, donkey, person, or another species. I love to learn how to greet others and share happiness. If someone gets mad at me, I have to think why and then change my behavior. I love the feeling of getting in right.”
Storm King my 14-year-old black-and-white Australian Shepherd says, “Care. I love the feeling of when others take care of me. When someone notices something is wrong and takes steps to help me I feel blessed. I love the serenity of sleeping in nature and the way nature smells. I love learning how to be happy in any given moment. Sometimes I imagine a hummingbird’s peep to remind me that small things fill me with joy.”
Makia my 16-year-old white cat says, “I love a good sleeping spot in a dark closet where my body can rest fully. I love butterflies. I love being told that I am beautiful and the feeling of being brushed. I love finding lost things. I love to sleep curled up with my person. I love feeling safe in nature.”
Serafina my gray middle-aged cat says, “I love adventure. I love exploring new places. I love treats that melt in my mouth (freeze-dried treats). I love the sound of my name when someone sings it. I love watching others. I love knowing that everyone I live with is happy and healthy. I love to control my thoughts so that good things will happen. I love happiness.”
Seamora my 23-year-old blue and gold Macaw says, “I love a good nut. I love climbing in trees. I love going for walks with my people. I love it when people tell me I am beautiful. I love feeling quenched from drinking fresh water. I love fruit. I love tofu. I love being interacted with everyday. I love the feeling of my people feeling safe with me. It makes me feel like I am a good girl. I love feeling safe. I love that life changes for the better.”
Bean my six-year-old bunny says, “I love that people fight for the humane treatment of bunnies and other animals. I love that I have a friend that offers me hay. I love my treats. I love to hop around the house and be kissed by my person in the morning. I love feeling that no matter what happens or where I live, I have family that will look after me and care about how I feel. I love the feel of wet dirt on my paws. I love lying on a clean towel.”
Jubilee my Appaloosa Sport Horse says, “I love eating clover and green grass. I love learning something new. I love the feeling of my friends nibbling on my neck. I love the feel of the fog in my nostrils. I love having my mane brushed. I love being cared for and being told I am a good girl. I love the feeling of knowing I understand something. I love other horses, all horses. I love my person and my trainer. I love the taste of my grain and my supplements. I love feeling like my body is being taken care of. I love being understood. I love learning that if I pay attention and try that life gets more exciting.”
A New Home
How Does Relocating Affect Your Animals?
We have recently moved to a furnished ranch in the Carpinteria foothills. We are living with more animals and people. Here I ask my animals, “How are you doing?”
Stormy, my 14-year-old Aussie says, “I like it here a lot because it is cooler than Ojai. Though I miss Ojai sometimes. I miss sleeping in our bed. I miss the flat green park. The ground is more rugged here so when I am in my stroller the bumping hurts my body. Sometimes I get forgetful where I am because the furniture doesn’t smell like us. But I like smelling the air and knowing that the ocean air is fresh. I know the sunsets are pretty here because you get excited to watch them. I like having all my new friends here. I like being able to go see the donkeys. I enjoy lying outside without having Luca bark all the time. I like knowing I live in nature but I am safe from the coyotes.”
Luca, my three-year-old poodle, says, “I love it here because there is a lot of nature and lots of things to do. I have met donkeys and have run through the fields. I have new dog friends. When I get bored I sit outside and listen to the wind blowing through the trees. Sometimes when the donkeys make noise I try to figure out what they are saying. I think they are saying, ‘Feed me’ and ‘Where are you?’ They eat hay, which is like dried grass. The hay doesn’t look good to me but they seem to love it. I am enjoying the donkeys.”
Serafina, my gray cat, says, “I miss being able to go out at night but I love the land here. There are a lot of lizards and there are birds I have never seen before. I can see really far. I never had such a view before. When the sun sets I see colors that I feel are going to blanket me. This place is really wonderful. I love it here.”
Makia, my white cat, says, “It has been a little hard for me because I don’t see and hear that well and it is scary going outside and not knowing where I am going. I like the big closet to sleep in and when you walk with me I enjoy being outside. It is hard to get on the bed because I don’t have my cat stairs. I am tired of so many ants. I hate the way they feel when they climb up my paws. They always want my food and I don’t like the smell of soapy water near my food. When we go back to Ojai for a visit I am going to see which place I like better. New is hard for an older animal. I like the air here and I like my closet.”
Bean, my bunny, says, “It has been the hardest for me because I don’t get to run around that much and I miss my freedom to run all around the house. I wont chew anything inappropriate I promise. I like being in the center of the house because I can see what is going on and I like the air because it doesn’t feel as dry. I don’t like the ants. It would be good if you could let me run around the whole house to explore.”
Seamora, my blue and gold macaw, says, “I like it here because I get to go on long walks everyday with the dogs. I have made new human friends and I love my new human friends. My cage is much smaller here and I don’t get to be out of my cage as much but it is okay because the walks make me tired and this cage is not that bad. I have learned so much about people since I have been here. I have learned that some people really love me and they want me to be friends with lots of people. I have learned that I can heal my wing and fly again. I will fly. I have splashed in water, too. I loved splashing in water. I love my walks. I have seen big trees and I have seen birds watching me. They say I am colorful. I love it here.”
The Importance of Clear Communication
I used to be a shy person who was scared to ask questions. I thought, unconsciously for while, that asking questions meant that I was either not paying attention, was not intellectual enough to be in the conversation, or just plain stupid. It is not that I didn’t seek answers. I would just do so quietly, searching in books or ease-dropping in on conversations.
I have this uncanny ability to read body language and emotions not just in animals but in people as well. When I started working as a professional animal communicator I would notice when my clients seemed confused yet nodded their heads as if they understood. My passion for giving the animals a voice and relieving their suffering was so strong that I wanted people to truly understand what I was trying to convey or what the animals were saying.
I started asking clients if they understood me, and what felt right and what felt off. I started to ask the animals for more clarification in what they were saying so that I had the more details to relay to my clients. I began to realize that in my business it was smart to ask questions. I got better at my work and people felt more comfortable, approaching me if they didn’t understand something.
Slowly this thinking moved into other areas of my life and I became braver of speaking up and asking questions if I was confused. When dealing with some professionals they have an air of intellect to them. They are factual, clear, and concise. I have found that what is simple to them may not be simple to others. I have come to realize that as a child I picked up their emotions on how rudimental the subject was to them. My insecurities of how the subject was complex to me made these people unapproachable.
I have also learned from working with animals and their humans that everyone is on their own path and we may live lifetimes working on one or two issues of ours. I have learned that some people and animals learn quickly and others more slowly and that it is not all the intelligence of our brains that govern our learning process but also our environment and the situations we were raised in. I have learned to not to judge someone’s learning process and to meet everyone where they are.
“Don’t I deserve to give myself the same patience and understanding I give others?”
My profession has showed me how important it is for clear communication. I started to watch people communicating with one another and noticed there are a lot nods of understanding when one does not understand at all. It is important to ask questions not just for my own understanding but for the other party who feels they are communicating clearly when actually they are losing awareness.
Lately, I have been hearing people say to me, “You ask such great questions.” And I think to myself, “How silly I was to feel so insecure and insignificant… And how many others are just like me.”
New and exciting Pet Psychic Radio show!
Listen to how co host / show producers Ai Kusuhara’s new dog is doing. Meet Fenway! We take some callers, learn about calming signals and … Our rescue cat guest Twig talks about why he gathers up sticks and brings them back to the pride.
Our Rescue Guest is Siglinda Scarpa from www.goathouserefuge.org Facebook page: facebook.com/TheGoathouseRefuge
Her passion is the rescue and re-homing of cats and kittens about to be euthanized from our state’s many kill shelters. Also to shut down the many shelters in NC that still utilize gas chambers and some even use the horribly painful method of “heart sticks” to kill the animals.
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This is Valentine. She is 8 years old. During a session with me she said, “I think I would like my person to read to me about cats. I like to learn about domestic cats and wild cats. Can we have more bugs in the house or get bug tv?” Laura Stinchfield of www.thepetpsychic.com
Everyone come out to
The Santa Barbara Botanic Gardens
Saturday August 24th
Rainbow Bridge Warehouse In Ojai on Sunday August 25th!
Author Louise Heydt and myself
will be doing book signings of her new book
Going To The Dogs, An Incredible True Story.
Think you know your animal friends? The author did too. Then she met Laura Stinchfield, who calls herself The Pet Psychic, and her world became enriched in ways she never knew were possible. You will meet Kundun, selfless, big-hearted pit bull-greyhound rescue, Genji, a spirited Paso Fino gelding, rambunctious Rasa and shy, abused Tara, Catahoula Leopard Hound sisters who tell their stories in their own words with the help of animal communicator, Laura, and their mom. The journey begins with a move from the wilds of northern New Mexico to the Ojai Valley in California. Experience this family’s joy, pain, love, loss and the author’s odyssey of caring for them as all age and confront their limitations, traumas, hopes, dreams and absolute devotion to each other. You will cry. You will laugh. And you will never think about animals in the same way again. The sudden illness and untimely death of a member of this animal family leads to conversations on the Other Side and introduces the reader to an alternate reality so surprising that it may completely change whatever one believes Heaven is.
Saturday 12:30-2:30 at Santa Barbara Botanic Garden 1212 Mission Canyon Road, Santa Barbara, California 93105
Sunday 10-12 Rainbow Bridge Warehouse 215 E Matilija St Ojai, CA 93023
You can buy books at the event or purchase on Amazon by Clicking Here
Foreword by Laura Stinchfield:
In this book, Louise takes us on a spiritual journey of discovering the inner depths of our relationships with animals. We follow her and her animals through illness, death, dying, surviving chaos, and the magical joy of experiencing living with our compassionate animals. Many of us have regrets for the way we dealt with certain situations involving animals in our past. Louise is brutally honest with her readers about her shortcomings. Through this extraordinary account, we learn that we can make amends with our animals. This is not only healing for our pets but also for us.
Following this family, we learn to grow, flourish, trust, and be strong while making decisions that anyone would dread. We witness that our animals not only are understanding of our difficult decisions, but also are often an integral part of making these decisions. Our animals are communicating with us all the time. Sometimes we consciously know what they are saying and other times it is unconscious yet still happening.
I am a professional animal communicator / pet psychic. This means I can telepathically talk to animals. I can ask or tell them anything. There is no limit to the consciousness of animals. We see through my communications with Louise’s pets that animals can take on many voices. One moment they can sound innocent like a child and then later offer advice like a wise sage. We see them scared of illness and death but once they understand the process they open their hearts and trust. They ground us in the present by asking for certain foods, to be read to and for walks in nature. They tell Louise to stretch and drink tea in order to be more centered and calm. They open our eyes to different realms by talking about visits from spiritual beings, deceased loved ones on the other side, and by telling us what happens to them after death. We learn that a golden thread always connects us and even death does not break the extraordinary bond we have with our animals.
This is a powerful story of elevating consciousness. While reading this wonderful book you will cry, laugh, be in wonder, forgive yourself and grow with Louise and her animal family. Once finished your heart will be open. Undoubtedly your life and relationships with all animals will change in remarkable ways. Enjoy.
Who Is Making The Dogs Sick?
and other callers…
Picture above of Getting ready for Pet Psychic Radio 8-15-13 -with co-host Ai Kusuhara , Stormy and Luca my poodle.
Stormy my Aussie says,
“When we are all together I feel like our love is spreading out into the universe.”
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Thanks for the Animals
The Reasons Pet Psychic Loves Each One
Today, I give thanks for my animals.
I am thankful for my 14-year-old Australian shepherd, Stormy, because he teaches me to smile no matter how I am feeling. Even in his or my darkest moments, he has bright eyes and a smile that warms my heart and makes me laugh. People from all over the world write me to express gratitude for his words of wisdom.
Stormy says now, “It is important to see yourself as a light. The brighter you express your light, the more beings are affected by your radiance. If you feel dark, shelter yourself. It only takes a few moments to rest and allow the light to radiate again. Everyone has light in them. Some people ignore it. Be the light.”
I am thankful for my gray cat, Serafina, because she teaches me about friendship and forgiveness. She always wants to be friends with others. She rubs up against the dogs and asks my other cat, Makia, to groom her. If they ignore her and walk away, or swat at her, she turns away and tries another time. She never takes personally another’s unwillingness to interact. She has an enormous amount of compassion. She is the first to arrive at the scene of trauma, offering her love and support.
Serafina says, “I feel that beings need friends to feel complete in their life. If you give love to others, you receive love. It may not be at the exact moment you give it, but eventually you do receive it, and that is a wonderful reward. I love being caring, because it makes my heart feel good.”
I am thankful for my blue and gold parrot, Seamora, because she teaches me to enjoy the wild animals of the world. She gets me thinking about the domestic wild animals that are mistreated. She brings color into my life.
Seamora says, “There are people who love parrots because they are pretty, and then there are people who love parrots and want to give them a habitat that they are comfortable in. I wish there were more of the latter.”
I am grateful for my poodle, Luca, because he reminds me of the miracles of the universe. He is a reincarnation of my wolf-dog Maia. He teaches me everyday that life continues and that we are always progressing in consciousness. Life never ends.
Luca says, “Sometimes it is hard to learn, and I feel a resistance inside of me – an inclination to keep doing things the same way. But then I have insight, and I feel it is best to use my mind and heart in more intelligent ways, and then I find that my life is happier. I am always learning. People are similar to me. I love life, and that is important.”
I am grateful for my white cat, Makia, because she teaches me self-care and the importance in believing in one’s beauty. She is constantly grooming herself and looking in the mirror. We don’t normally think of animals in this way. She is a reminder to me that I can enjoy feeling good about my outer appearance, and that it is not necessarily being vain. She prides herself in carrying herself well at all times.
Makia says, “The way you look is a statement about how you feel inside. Even when I feel sick, I make sure I am well groomed, because if others look at me and believe me to be healthy, then I have a greater chance of attracting health. This is not to say that I don’t ask for help when I need it. Look beautiful at all times, and beauty will come to you. Everyone should feel that.”
I am grateful for my bunny, Bean, because she gives me pure, innocent, childlike joy. Every time I see her and pet her, I feel like a child.
Bean says, “I think my mom feels like a child because I have a peace about me that is enjoyable to others. I love nature and I love life. I love my food and the way the sunlight streams into my room. I love the feeling of dirt on my paws and the mist of the sprinkler outside. I love simple things that people often forget to notice. Life is special. Enjoy every moment. I have learned this.”
I am grateful for my Appaloosa sport horse, Jubilee, because she gets me out of my head and present in my body. She is a big horse with a lot of energy, and I have to really concentrate on my body language and my steps – in order to be a good teacher to her and to keep her feeling safe and calm. She is also bringing something back inside of me that I lost as a teenager.
Jubilee says, “There is so much in the world to learn. I have to learn about horse behavior, human behavior, and how to control my own behavior. Having a person I can listen to helps me become a better horse and understand my world better. I am Jubilee, and I am a champion.”
Animals Answer, ‘What Is the Best Way for Humans to Approach You?’
Frequently, I find myself explaining to animals and their people that human body language and animal body language are different. For example, humans will often look a dog straight in the eye and bend with their torso to call their dog to them or to greet a strange dog. In doing so, we humans think we are being friendly and inviting, but in actual reality this behavior is a form of dominance. Of course there are exceptions where owners can look lovingly into their dog’s eyes, but this is a raising of consciousness beyond animal body language.
If you have ever watched dogs play or even get in a fight, the more dominant dog may throw its chin or paw up on the other dog’s shoulder. We humans mimic this behavior when we bend with our torso.
If we straighten our upper bodies, bend with our knees, and gaze softly (at our dogs and then away from our dogs), many canines would “come” faster and be less aggressive toward humans.
Here I ask my animals, “What is the best way for humans to approach you?” Granted this is an individual’s opinion. I am asking them to be the spokes animal for the species.
Stormy, my Aussie dog, says, “I like people to approach me from the side and pet my shoulder first. I don’t really like people petting my head too much. But I love people petting my shoulders and my back. Don’t lean over me. It makes me feel too crowded.”
Makia, my white cat, says, “I think it is important that people move slow and have the intention that they are going to leave the animal on the ground. I don’t like it when people move fast toward me with the idea of picking me up. Let me stand on my own four paws.”
Bean, my bunny, says, “I don’t really like people approaching me. I like them to say hi from a distance, but if it is someone I know, I want them to move slow, kneel down next to me, and pet my back before my head.”
Seamora, my blue and gold macaw, says, “People should walk up to me slowly and start dancing. I love to watch people dancing. We can dance together to get to know one another.” I am not sure if this is the feelings all macaws. I will keep you posted on this one.
Jubilee, my young Appaloosa sport horse, says, “Walk up to my side and pet my shoulder. Tell me I am a good girl, and don’t look me right in the eye. Look at the side of my neck or my back. Then I am the most comfortable.”
Luca, my young poodle, says, “I like it when you are a kid and you are small. Small people are the best. If you are a big person and want to pet me, it is best to bend with your knees and talk to me first. I also like to smell you first. Then pet my shoulder and my back. Don’t pet my head.”
Serafina, my gray cat, says, “Slow is the best way. You can look down at me, but don’t pet me first. Talk to me for a second, and then pet me. People rush up to animals and put their hands all over them too quickly. Say hello first and get to know me before you touch me.”
Stormy adds, “I love a massage. You are welcome to massage me but pay attention to me. I may tell you that your hand is too heavy or that you are kneading me too much and it hurts. If you look at me and I have my mouth open, I am smiling and it feels good. If I have my mouth closed and am looking at you intensely you are hurting me.”
So basically what my animals are saying is walk slowly, make a connection by talking to them before you reach for them, bend down slowly with your knees not your torso, be soft with your eyes and do not look them directly in the eyes, refrain from petting their head, and be conscious if you are petting them too hard or not. This is actually seems like a good way to greet people as well.